Man slammed after giving wife’s jewelry to sister-in-law as a wedding gift
The internet backed a woman’s ultimatum against her husband, after he offered her heirloom jewelry as a wedding gift.
The outraged woman posted her situation on Reddit’s Am I The A ** hole forum with the username Saved-Ad7607.
She explained that she was the breadwinner in the household, as her husband had not been able to “find a job” since 2013.
The 36-year-old also lost her job at one point and was unfortunately forced to sell many sets of jewelry to pay rent. Now his work takes them “month to month”.
She kept a set, because it had sentimental value since it was part of a family heirloom, consisting of a pair of earrings, a bracelet and a gold necklace, worth “a sum decent money “.
She didn’t think about it, until she noticed it was missing. After confronting her husband, he revealed that he had given her as a wedding present.
Explaining the backstory, she claimed her brother-in-law and girlfriend had been together for a decade and the marriage was “a huge deal for the family.”
She wrote: âMy husband wanted to give them a decent wedding present and tried to borrow money from friends and neighbors, but it was turned down. He continued to stress about it for weeks and the other day (the wedding was a few days before and the groom and the bride are going on their honeymoon) I found out that my jewelry set was missing. I panicked after my husband casually said that he had given it to his brother’s wife as a wedding present.
“I was furious I asked how could he and he replied that he had no money and nothing of value to give to the newlyweds and other than that this set has been in the closet ever since. July 2019 and i have never worn any piece of it so he thought i forgot it but he said he would find a way to pay me or get me a similar one once he he would start working, but I told him very loudly no and gave him 3 days, just 3 days to return the set or I will stop paying for everything in the apartment. “
Apparently he didn’t think his wife would follow through on his threat, as she fumed, “He looked puzzled, like he couldn’t believe I was serious.”
She revealed that the couple were already on their honeymoon abroad, but did not reveal where they are currently based.
She continued, âHe said he didn’t want to cause a problem but I said it was already there and if he doesn’t want any problems all he has to do is contact his. brother or his wife and collect the set or go and collect it himself.
âHe tried to twist the argument and come up with the same solutions as mentioned above but I refused.
He kept talking about how tasteless and disrespectful it would be for him to get a wedding gift back and said it would hurt his relationship with his brother and family and also how impossible it was to get it back. ‘together in 3 days when the couple are on their honeymoon in another country. “
Her post, shared on Tuesday, garnered more than 20,000 upvotes, as she shared more information in the comments about why her husband couldn’t find work.
She wrote: “Every potential employer has had a problem with her disability (her left arm is injured but partly functional) that has wreaked havoc on us for years.
“This set is literally all I have left because I barely cover rent, bills and other needs.”
Many people have commented on the situation, with PoopieClater advising, âET, report the theft of the set. It is a family inheritance which is in no way part of the matrimonial property. Your husband stole from you, his brother and SIL. [sister-in-law] received the stolen good. I hope you can bring charges against them all. “
Tig2112phx commented: “It’s not mooch, it’s theft. He stole his jewelry set!”
CluesLostHelp thought, “I would ask for a divorce now. The longer you wait, the more likely you are to have to pay child support to an unemployed spouse. I don’t know how long OP has been married or where she is, but quite a bit. many states (the US) have a presumption of lifelong support after you’ve also reached 10 years of marriage. “
Zootnotdingo said: “Okay. OP, you are not abusive. Get your jewelry back. You are right. He is completely wrong.”
As ShadowsObserver pointed out, “And even if he could buy her something of equal or greater value, it still wouldn’t be a family heirloom.”
Website Brides.com indicates factors such as how much it costs to attend the wedding, how well you know the couple and the tradition are all factors when it comes to what to spend on the gift.
But he stressed, âLimit your investment to what you can actually afford, even if it’s less than the label suggests. If you can’t find a single item that fits your budget, consider purchasing. a few smaller items to add up to an amount that works for you. “
News week contacted Saved-Ad7607 for comment.