How wedding planning adapts to COVID-19 security
Since the pandemic, wedding planning has been about making sure guests feel comfortable enough to show up in person at the ceremony. The health and safety of guests are the most important aspects of plans, according to more than 75% of the more than 7,600 couples surveyed in spring 2021 by the wedding website The Knot for its 2020 study of actual marriages.
The size of the celebration and the number of attendees also play a role in the decision, with handshakes or guest lists exceeding 200. As couples plan to share their joy, wedding guests now have more than 200 people. decisions to be made than the simple gift.
Ron Segel, 74, and his wife, Meryl Manning Segel, 73, attended their first in-person wedding since the pandemic on September 11, traveling from their home in Albuquerque, New Mexico, to Long Island, New York, for the wedding of the daughter of longtime friends.
“They made it clear that no one was invited unless he was fully vaccinated,” said Segel, a retired lawyer. “In some ways it was refreshing and liberating to be in a big group with friends. But things were clearly different.
COVID security is the new trend in marriage
Emily Post’s great-great-granddaughter Lizzie Post (a 20th century author best known for writing about etiquette, manners, and social behavior) co-hosts a weekly Q&A podcast, on which she says related to COVID marriage issues are routine.
“It shouldn’t be – at this point in the pandemic – an unexpected part of an invitation,” Post said. “This may be the first time you’ve heard of one talking about it. But with this pandemic raging, there is expected to be some communication on security measures. “
If you’ve received an invitation to a wedding and there hasn’t been a discussion about pandemic safety, it’s normal for a guest to ask the question, Post says.
The Knot survey of those planning weddings for 2020 found that just over 40 percent happened with the wedding and reception, with the majority taking place outside. Among those who got married, about a third of the couples also planned a larger gathering later. Of those planning fall and winter weddings this year, 57% are going ahead with more than 100 guests, says Esther Lee, editor and wedding expert at The Knot.
Post says she’s hearing from both sides – the vaccinated and the unvaccinated – on how to do this, with some saying, “I’m not vaccinated and want to go but I don’t want people yelling at me” or , “We have family who we know are not vaccinated and want to know the ‘rules in place for safety’.
Meryl Manning Segel says she received at least four or five emails about security measures “ahead of the September wedding she and her husband attended.” The newlyweds got married last year in a private ceremony and have a bigger event this year.
Manning Segal says she mostly felt safe having fun.
“It was great and everyone took precautions,” she says of the event with nearly 200 guests. “Happy hour was outside too. All those who were waiters were masked. The photographer was masked. Everyone who worked was masked. The group was masked as much as it could be.
Manning Segel, a real estate agent, says she and her husband wore masks during the evening, but says she “got a little anxious when everyone was dancing.”
“You dance and you sweat and half [are dancing without masks] and half dance with masks. I would say about 40 percent wore masks, ”she says. “The young people didn’t.”
To allow for greater social distancing, Lee says dance floors are growing in size and many dance floors are being placed outdoors under twinkling lights.
But regardless of the protocols, she says, “If a guest doesn’t feel comfortable attending a wedding during this time, it’s more than okay to politely decline the invitation. This is where a gift comes in handy.